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How to Perform a Love Tarot Reading

Many Tarot clients ask questions about the condition and quality of their romantic relationship. In fact, this sort of question is likely to be the one which most new Tarot readers will first need to be able to answer. In this article, you will learn how to perform a standard Tarot reading about love. After you become comfortable with performing this kind of reading, you can add Tarot card positions to tailor and customize the reading to the needs and desires of your client.


Please note that this sort of reading is best not performed for you by yourself, because you will be much too close to this situation. If you have relationship questions, the best action would be to receive a reading from a Tarot professional who will be unbiased. The only exception would be if you have many years of meditative experience and are able to fully separate your emotions from your Tarot reading.


Whether you are having a love reading performed for you or you are performing one yourself for a client, a careful study of the standard love reading will be beneficial.



Traditionally, the most effective spread for a "Love" Tarot reading is a 6-card spread, with one card ("The Lovers") set aside as the Significator.


Each one of the five remaining card positions signifies a particular aspect or quality concerning the relationship and the lovers themselves.



The Love Tarot Reading Spread


SIGNIFICATOR: The Lovers.

1st Position: An aspect or quality which the client brings to the relationship.

2nd Position: What the client needs in a relationship.

3rd Position: An aspect or quality which the client's partner brings to the relationship.

4th Position: What the partner needs in a relationship.

5th Position: Expected outcome of this relationship.



Spread Details


SIGNIFICATOR: The Lovers.

This card provides the theme and foundation of the reading. The practical reason for choosing a Significator is to avoid drawing that card during the reading itself, which would create a confusing message. Because this reading is about love, selecting The Lovers is sensible.


1st Position: An aspect or quality which the client brings to the relationship.

Note carefully whether this card has positive or negative aspects. The client could bring either positive or negative aspects to this relationship. Positive aspects should be continued, and negative aspects should be remedied.


2nd Position: What the client needs in a relationship.

If this card has positive aspects, then the card's meanings display what the client needs to be fulfilled in a relationship. Consider, then, whether these needs are being met by the current relationship. If this card has negative aspects, then the card's meanings show what the client must avoid in a relationship. In that case, consider whether this relationship features those negative traits.


3rd Position: An aspect or quality which the client's partner brings to the relationship.

Note carefully whether this card has positive or negative aspects. The partner could bring either positive or negative aspects to this relationship. View positive aspects as reasons to continue the relationship. Consider negative aspects to be reasons to end the relationship.


4th Position: What the partner needs in a relationship.

If this card has positive aspects, then the card's meanings display what the partner needs to be fulfilled in a relationship. Consider, then, whether these needs are being met by the current relationship; if not, the client must work to fulfill these needs in order for the relationship to be strong. If this card has negative aspects, then the card's meanings show what the partner dislikes in a relationship. In that case, consider whether this relationship features those negative traits, and act accordingly.


5th Position: Expected outcome of this relationship.

Note carefully whether this card has positive or negative aspects. The previous card positions will indicate how to interpret this card best. If the relationship seems good, then this card shows a good situation that can be achieved (if the card is of positive aspect) or a bad situation that can be avoided (if the card is of negative aspect) through having this relationship. However, if the relationship seems bad, then this card shows a good opportunity that may be missed (if the card is of positive aspect) or a bad situation that may arise (if the card is of negative aspect) because of continuing this relationship.


The Guide:

1. Search the Tarot deck for The Lovers, draw the card, and set it as the Significator.

2. Shuffle the deck.

3. Draw five cards and set them into their positions.

4. Examine each card in turn, interpreting its traditional meanings in accordance with its position to interpret the condition and quality of the relationship.

5. Consider how best to move forward: should the relationship be continued? If so, how can the relationship be further strengthened and encouraged?



Example Reading: Amber's Lover...and Coworker


(Printed with the express permission of the client.)


Amber, a 26-year-old professional straight out of university, scheduled a reading with me. She had just begun her first job at a software development company, and within a month, one of her coworkers had shown romantic interest in her. They started to date, secretly. Amber told me that her coworkers and boss probably would not be bothered by the relationship, unless of course it affected her work, because the software company was rather relaxed about such things.


Still, Amber felt uncertain, because she worried that she might mess up her first career experience.





For the first card, we drew the IV of Cups, reversed. This card was not a good sign, for it showed that Amber brought crushing boredom and restlessness to the relationship. Amber understandably did not like this card's message, but after taking a minute to think about it, she agreed. She was a highly introverted person, and she had always lived for studying, and now her work as a software developer. She had few friends and no real life outside of her new career. While that was not necessarily a bad thing, she noted that her new boyfriend was much more extroverted, and he did not seem to take his work as seriously as she did her own. This, she imagined, could be a point of disagreement in the future.


For the second card, we drew Justice, reversed. This card suggested that Amber's greatest desire was to let go of negative past experiences in love. Already on the verge of tears---for this Tarot reading had been rather serious already---Amber wept and related to me her failed relationships in high school and university. She had always been attracted to exciting guys, but they tended to leave her after less than a month. Although she was physically attractive, Amber worried that her personality was simply not interesting enough for men to stay with her for the long term. She was focused on work, because she loved programming (it made her feel at ease, alone with her computer and lines of code), and what she needed was a man who would accept that.


For the third card, we drew the X of Swords, reversed. This card warned that Amber's new partner would bring a bad end to this relationship. Logically, Amber agreed---and she admitted that, although she had told me that her coworkers would not mind the relationship if it were discovered, she had only wanted this to be true. It was not, necessarily; she had no evidence that her coworkers (and her boss, especially) would look favorably on the situation. Thinking logically, Amber realized that dating her coworker could lead to a bad end of what she enjoyed most now (that is, her career).


For the fourth card, we drew the X of Cups, reversed. This card suggested that what Amber's new boyfriend needed from a relationship the most was a strong family, which would bring him happiness. Amber noted that her new boyfriend had already talked about wanting to get a house, a wife, kids, the "American Dream". I asked Amber if she thought she would be the type to settle down and start a family. Amber said that, although she might want to in the future, for now she wanted to focus on her career. She understood clearly, already, that this relationship was not looking to be successful.


Finally, for the fifth card, we drew the VI of Pentacles, reversed. Because it was apparent that this relationship was mostly negative, this card warned that the expected outcome would lead to a loss of prosperity and a missed opportunity for family. Amber agreed with this interpretation, saying that if her boyfriend wanted a family now, she was not the right person at this time for him, and a relationship with her would not be in his best interests. Moreover, if her other coworkers and her boss figured out what was going on, Amber's financial situation could collapse.


I advised Amber to discuss these considerations with her boyfriend openly and honestly.


She did so. He took it well, especially when she explained that she knew he wanted to start a family, but she was only focusing on her career for the time being. In fact, more than merely taking it well, he greatly appreciated that she had shown such concern and caring for his desires and his time. No one had ever been "up front" with him in a relationship before.


Amber and her partner thus decided to end their early relationship, and just remain coworkers.


Amber's other coworkers never found out about the relationship (or if they did, they never cared).


After a few months, Amber's now "ex-boyfriend" was promoted to a mid-level management position within the company...and he, knowing full well how much work Amber put in to her programming, elevated her to working directly in his team.


Now they have an excellent working relationship, and both know they can be open and honest with each other.


And to end our story: Amber is now dating an introverted, hardworking man (in a different company!) who is as focused on career development as she is. And as for her once-partner, he has since met and become engaged to a woman who wants to settle down and start a family.


Sometimes, romantic love between certain people does not bloom, nor should it. Openness and honesty, however, can lead to great things that benefit everyone involved.




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